my neighbors daughter hung…?
i get home go to the restroom and hear screaming...once im done i go look out the window and there is a fire truck. i didn't think anything of it because our neighbor is handy capt from being in iraq so she falls time to time and there to get up and such. well then i see emt's more fire trucks, cop cars and such so i go to walk over there to ask if she wanted me to watch her lil pooch (which my husband and i do often) i look and her car isn't there.
i peak around and her daughter is hanging in the garage by a dog leash!! i was in utter shock. her best friend came running to me crying for support. i was having a hard time getting things together in my mind all i could hear was sirens and she hung herself, she hung herself! im thinking wtf happened, wtf, wtf, wtf where is her mom?? they couldn't find her mom, she has no cell phone (which is nuts)
i had talked to her mom a couple of times about her daughter and she said she was troubled and she told me a few things but she called them "typical" teenager things. well...i didn't think those were "typical" things but who am i to judge? im only 20 and have no kids. after her mom told me those things i was worried for her daughter and i was going to confront her daughter to let her know that mine and my husbands doors are always open if she needs talking to. im an X drug user sober 5 years and if she needs to talk im more than happy too, i will do my best to understand and all ears are open. i didn't because maybe it was to personal and its her mom and surely she'd be there for her.
well what felt like 10 minutes, they got a pulse. emt told me they didn't think she was going to make it from the look in her eyes she looked brain dead and her pulse was VERY weak.
they talked to me a questioned me about the mother and things ive seen go on over there. which i have seen a lot but kept my nose out of it of course.
im so worried, i haven't heard anything from the mother yet. im still watching there dog. i don't know if shes okay or what state shes in. im really worried. in utter shock and i don't understand.
hanging yourself isn't a cry for help! i don't think anyways. it means you just want to be dead. trying to over dose and cutting your wrists is a cry for help. which she did have cuts on her wrist and such. (her mom has told me she isnt going to pay attention to her daughters BS) i feel sad about that!
i've heard about people killing themselves but i never really thought about it or took it to heart till i saw my neighbors daughter with a chain around her neck.
why do people do this? why do people just want to end there lives? why cant people understand that life isn't always easy and you are in a fight everyday to get to the top and things will get better over time.
and if she does come home from the hospital alive and safe i was thinking about buying her a gift and asking if i can talk to her and just let her know that i'll be here. my heart goes out to her in every way possible. would that be wrong of me what do you think?
sorry i explained the whole thing. i haven't been able to talk about it.
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November 2nd, 2009 at 4:39 pm
First, I want to say I am soooo sorry that you had to witness that first hand. It is something that will unfortunately be with you for the rest of your life.
Second, Cograts to you for being an upstanding citizen with a heart that wants to help. Continue with that mentality and when they need you, I am sure you will be there ready to help. Until then, I would just try to find some peace, for what you just saw can be emotionally and physically draining.
I would say that this was not a cry for help, but as you said a true suicide attempt. The mother needs to pay attention to the BS, becuase it is obviously not BS. I do not think that is something you can tell her, but something she has to learn from a family member, police, or doctor.
A gift, though a nice gesture, is probably not going to be welcome. I imagine this is embarrasing for both mother and daughter and the thought that everyone in the neighborhood now knows their dirty laundry (which it sounds like you already knew) mind be a bit much for the daughter to handle at this time. But, maybe you can check with the mom when you see her (hopefully soon).
Good luck and my thoughts and prayers are with your neighbors.
November 2nd, 2009 at 4:39 pm
Oh my goodness. That is so sad! :’( I feel so bad for the family, and for you to have to witness that! But just to cut to the chase. I don’t htink it would be out of place for you, if the girl comes home, to bring her a gift and talk to her and whatnot. I think if the mother didn’t take the time to do that, then someone needs to. It’s not the girls fault her mom didn’t want to pay attention to her. But you need to. That would be very helpful I would think to her. And if she doesn’t make it through. Then just pray and comfort the family. It’s so sad and tragic that they cannot find her mother anyways. My heart goes out to them as well. I hope I helped you! Good luck and god bless!
November 2nd, 2009 at 4:39 pm
If you are lonely you do things like that
send her flowers or chocolates everyday signed anonymous
little things like that will give her reason to live
November 2nd, 2009 at 4:39 pm
I am really sorry you are so upset over this. Try to think positive and think of positive things that you can do in today and in the future. It is sad that many young people do end up a suicide case because of sadness and loneliness. I would try to maybe visit her at the hospital and bring her a card and flowers and let her know you care and that you want her to live. She needs to know that others do care about her.