How do you feel about this??? Please read. Family Drama. Its long but PLEASE read!!?
My cousin, who is like a brother to me is 22 years old. Him and his gf have been together since high school. She got pregnant and had his baby last July. They moved out of my cousins house and into her parents house. My cousin has always worked with his dad. His dad has his own construction company.
His baby mama, bc thats what she is, doesnt work. Neither does her dad, nor her little brother who got fired for smoking weed at work. (hes a looser and 16)
While they live at her parents, only my cousin and her mom work. His baby mama goes to school and so does my cousin.
Technical schools
He has a BMW that his dad makes payments for every month. His gf had a scion but passed it on to her brother. Which they are financing as well.
My cousin just bought a truck and passed his bmw to his gf and is paying off the new truck.
Well just a month ago they found out his baby mama was pregnant again!
So now they decided they wanted to get married! idk why bc my cousins talks about his girl like he doesnt love her and he is also depressed.
Did i mention, he bought her a 5000 dollar engagement ring a few weeks ago.
I know this all their business and what not but he is like a big brother too me and i feel like this b!tch is making him this way. I feel he feels obligated bc of the babies. I hate her! But seriously people what do you think, AND they are getting married tomorrow.
But not for love, they want to fix things. I think he is tired of calling her his baby mama. My family thinks the same way.
Dont you think he needs to save money instead of buying her a ring that expensive?
She also cheated on him a few years ago, my family saw her twice and he never believed them!
He also goes and tells her everything so we cant tell him NOTHING!
Opinions thanks.
and his dad pays the car she is driving...
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January 18th, 2010 at 11:55 pm
He’s brainwashed. It sounds to me he’s going to do it regardless of what anyone thinks.
A couple years down the road, don’t be surprised if they get divorced.
January 18th, 2010 at 11:55 pm
I know you hate to see your cousin this way and it is a bad situation. However, he’s the one who slept with a woman he didn’t love, who had children with her, who spent money he didn’t have on an expensive ring, etc. People have to live with the consequences of the decisions they make for themselves whether it’s pleasant or not. Making a commitment to his children by marrying their mother is honestly the best step for your cousin at this point.
January 18th, 2010 at 11:55 pm
Sounds to me like she needs to keep her legs closed until she can afford to have kids. She should get a job and help your cousin out. They should save getting married until they can afford it. And getting married to someone because you want things to "work" or because of the kids will eventually end up leading to a divorce. But I guess they have to learn on their own…
January 18th, 2010 at 11:55 pm
Lots of drama – you’re right. He will have to learn on his own. Trying to say anything to someone about their gf/bf just makes them defend that person more, so it does no good.
Getting married will teach them a lot about themselves and about what they REALLY need in a relationship. Unfortunately, the kids may pay the price if these two don’t learn how to parent correctly. There are several excellent books on the subject so maybe that would be an excellent wedding gift.
It’s great you care, but you might just need to MYOB.
January 18th, 2010 at 11:55 pm
Sorry – but this drama is not yours. I know how frustrating this can be but unfortunately your in a position where you can do nothing about it. I would focus on anything other than this drama, and let their problems be their own. If you find your are having trouble accepting their dramatic life, I would step back. Maybe by not answering the phone when they call.
January 18th, 2010 at 11:55 pm
ouch. i know all about family drama. it’s hard to watch all of this go down but it really is best to stay out of it. when it’s time, your cousin will realize the mistakes he has made and will hopefully do what is best for him and his child/children. even though it’s hard, you have to hold your tongue and do your best to be honest but as supportive as possible. if you’re not, and if you talk badly about his gf, it’s only going to drive them closer together and push you further away. stay strong and positive. good luck!
January 18th, 2010 at 11:55 pm
Everyone has their roads to go down. Right or wrong, he is going to do what he needs to do for himself. Mind your business, not his. If you truly care for him, just be there for him and take no sides. These are his children for better or worse, he is trying to be responsible. I give the guy lots of kuddos for doing the right thing.
January 18th, 2010 at 11:55 pm
just tellthem
January 18th, 2010 at 11:55 pm
Well first of all, it is their business. I know you love him (like a brother) and it is hard to watch those that you love be hurt and manipulated by others, but from experience getting too involved and voicing too much of an opinion will only push him away. He made his choice and you have to support him-even if that means biting your tongue..a lot! We all take paths in our lives that rougher than others. Unfortunately your cousin is on one bumpy back road heading south. Did he need to buy her that expensive of a ring with a baby on the way? Maybe not, but that is his call. I think that you might be getting mixed messages from him when he complains about his future wife. Would he be the first guy to rag about the woman that he has have at home? No. Whether
he is marring her to do the "right thing" or out of love-it is his life. Not much you can do now, it is tomorrow. I wouldn’t worry too much about his finances, it sounds like his Daddy has his back.