Comments on: He is selfish, should I leave him?

By: whateva

whateva — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 10:40:11 +0000

yes he sounds like a damn baby not a boyfriend. and he doesn’t want to get engaged and you do. so kick him to the curb and find someone who wants to get married. believe me, an engagement ring can be bought for cheap if he’s serious. for sure cheaper than car and boats and parts for them. he just doesn’t have the stones to tell you he doesn’t want to get engaged and probably would rather keep sleeping with you and have someone waiting for him when he gets deployed than to be alone. but why should you settle for a life like that? and let’s face it. if he’s military he can buy you a ring on credit at the PX.

By: oso_loco1961

oso_loco1961 — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 10:40:11 +0000

That wont change if it hasn’t already ..What will you do with kids and a selfish hubby? Yes, I would leave him behind and not worry about looking for another man…Let him find you !

By: kiwi

kiwi — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 10:40:11 +0000

I would. He doesn’t sound like he’s ready to take on the responsibility of a wife.

By: tiredlovingmum

tiredlovingmum — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 10:40:11 +0000

You can do better. Would you want kids to be raised in this envornment? You have to think long term and right know it hasn’t gotten better.

By: NetNurd

NetNurd — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 10:40:11 +0000

Yeah, you should leave him he sounds to me like a self centered ass hole who doesn’t care about getting engaged at all. If he is just spending money on random things and not caring about the engagement then you should leave him.

By: persian princess

persian princess — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 10:40:11 +0000

Unless he is asking you for money you do not have the right to say what he can spend his money on. If he wants to ask you to marry him he will. He will find a way to pay for it just like he does everything else, if thats what he really wants. If you have a problem with him hanging up on you, maybe you should think about what you are saying to make him just want to get away from you. You dont have to believe him but you need to accept the relationship for what it is or move on.

By: diana1b

diana1b — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 10:40:11 +0000

Leave or stay as you decide, just be aware if it bugs you now it will become worse if you get married. And it will bug you a hundred times more, too.

By: Dms

Dms — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 10:40:11 +0000

run and dont look back

By: wherehaveallthehippiesgone

wherehaveallthehippiesgone — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 10:40:11 +0000

Only you can answer that one. But you do know in your gut. Don’t you think you are a more worthwhile person than to be treated this way. You say you want to get engaged so that means marriage, behaviors like these don’t change. He will remain selfish and childish. Do you really want that in your life ? Is this something you would want your future children to see and learn ? You deserve better than this, to me, it seems, he is not ready to get married and instead of telling you verbally he is showing it by his actions. If you are ready for a committed relationship then I think you need to find a way to move on and find someone who wants the same as you, the same goals, same value system etc. Best of luck to you.

By: LDJ

LDJ — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 10:40:11 +0000

He does not want to marry.